Psalm 136:26 Give thanks to the God of heaven, for his steadfast love endures forever.
Lately, Eli has been coming home and boasting about all of the different girls that like him at school. One day it’s this girl and then the next day another little lady seems to be infatuated with him. I’m not sure how much of it is even true, but Eli really likes the boost they give to his already big ego.
He is only eight and already Eli seems to place so much value on being liked. He wants everyone to look at him as “the cool kid” and the one everyone wants to be friends with. Being liked to him means everything.
The need to be liked is something most of us can take all the way back to preschool. Way back when we needed to find friends to play with on the playground. It feels good to have people want to be friends with you. You feel special and you feel loved.
We carry this into the teenage years where being liked certainly becomes the primary focus for many teens. Then, when we finally become adults, we hope to grow out of it. But, if we are truthful, deep inside, the younger versions of ourselves are always in there, still yearning to be liked.
We can spend a lot of time on this, making it a much bigger priority than it should be.
I try and tell Eli when he starts to brag that it doesn’t matter how many girls like him or how many friends he has. That number does not determine how special you are. At the end of the day, there is really only one important person who matters, and He loves you more than all of the girls and all of the friends combined. Instead of spending time worrying about whether or not others like us, spend more time with Jesus. When we put our focus on Him, the other things don’t seem to matter as much anymore. There is nothing more satisfying than spending time nurturing a relationship with Jesus.
He should always be our main focus.
I think the advice falls on deaf ears at this point but I’m hoping to get through to Eli one day.
At least before the girls start calling him.
Then I’m going to need a whole lot more time with Jesus.