One of my dearest friends tries so hard to be everything to everybody, everyday. She is the woman people go to with their celebrations. New job, new cat, new car? Call her. She will make you feel so special and loved.
She is also the woman people go to with their problems. Lost your job, lost your cat, lost your car? Call her. She will help you get through it. Her sweet disposition and kind soul make her easy to talk to but also easy to take things out on. She takes everything to heart and wants everyone to be happy, always putting others feelings before hers own.
As I watch my friend, I see her becoming weighed down by the weight of everyone else’s problems. Her load can sometimes be too much to carry. I want to tell her that Jesus didn’t intend for us to feel like this. Galatians 6:2 states we should, as Christians, take on one another’s burdens. He wants us to care for one another and love people with a Christ-like love.
But this doesn’t mean we should be walking hunched over, letting other’s constantly take our joy.
Carrying other’s burdens doesn’t mean we should be people pleasers. When other’s try and compromise our joy, we need to look towards Jesus for guidance. Sometimes He might want us to take that load right off our back and give it right back to the other person. As hard as that sounds, keep in mind, Jesus is the only one we should be pleasing. Does appeasing others, all of the time, really help to glorify Jesus?
Dear Paige, When we are constantly in prayer and communication with Jesus we learn to hear Him better. He will direct you on the right paths, showing you how, and when and where. Learn to listen to His guidance. He is the only one who truly knows which burdens you can and cannot handle.
Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.